Truth about Divorce!!

[Abdur_Rahman]

During the time of the Prophet (SAW) divorce could only take place if the intention of divorce was given at three (3) different times i.e. 'I divorce thee' would have been said on three different period of time and NOT 'I divorce thee' I divorce thee' 'I divorce thee' all at one go (I divorce thee = Talaq).
This was done because of the fact that, there is no people on earth that does not fight or quarrel and married couples are no exceptions. Husband and wife quite often end of 'fighting, quarrelling' etc, and in the heat of the moment one of them can easily say 'I divorce you' i.e. talaq Dhilam' and then splitting up the family would become very easy So the Prophet (Saw) made it a law that any divorce has to be said in three different period of time and not consecutively. Further more if the party already said Talaq once ( they can say it 100 times this would still count as once, because it would have been done in one situation, but moments or some time later these couples can easily get together (as they quite often do)when things cool down a bit. But say their problem persists and again they get into a bad situation say a month later and if the Intention of divorce is said then that would have been counted as the Second Talaq ( they can mention the word 500 times would make to difference) but again they can mend and live together, but if the problem persists and there is no way for these people to live on like this then the next time the intention of divorce is mentione that becomes the Final and Divorce will take place.
Allah wants people to live toghether in harmony but if living together becomes unbearable and damaging then He has made it Halal to separate, but only after all consultation between the parties (including those that were involved arranging the marrage has been carried out divorce is the last thing that Allah Likes).
This was the way of the Prophet Talaq given at three different time and situations. UNFORTUNATELY some of our leaders in the past have abondoned the way of the prophet and have allowed a man to say divorce just three times with his mouth at any one time and then the divorce is complete!
UNFORTUNATELY, UNFORTUNATELY most of us are not aware of these things and the Talaq Talaq talaq has become the norm as a result only Allah knows how many lives have been separated over the centuries bringing miseries to people! Oh Allah diliver us from these ignorance!!

[Nur]

Bro,
I agree with you a 100%. One should really not accept anything as Islamic rules, and shuld actually investigate rules before stating them. I'm glad you decided to find ou the truth about divorce rather than just acepting what so called muslim scholars say, who don't even bother giving reference to where the rules are derived from!

[Nur]

I agrre Bro!

[The_Oshik-kitoe]

Salaam brothers.

I also agree with you both, but there is something else I would like to highlight and that is;
If a man is involved in an argument with his wife & in the heat of the moment he makes the intention and says I divorce you once (talak dilam) then STRAIGHT AWAY realises that he didn’t mean it & says IN- SHAH- ALLAH than it will not be talak at all.
Because HE said IN SHAH ALLAH (if Allah wills it)
And Allah dose not will you to divorce, (he wants you to live together in harmony)

However if you say IN-SHAH-ALLAH a few moment later it WILL BE talak once.

From the student of life the Oshik-kitoe



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