I'M JUST LOST...

[Star]

Originally posted by Amar-Sonar-Bangla You should thank me Star, your fatwa's have travelled the length and breadth of the net by now. I see your name in the internet pantheon of greats. 'Sheikh Star of B.Com'....kinda has a ring to it, no?

It would be an insult and disrespect to those who've genuinely earnt the title of Sheikh - to make me one.. so i'd say it doesn't have a ring to it - i don't deliever fatwas, regurgitate info i've picked up along the way..


Re: Hooded Lyricist

If your friend wishes to convert to Islam - I think it's best to make sure she converts freely and of her own will and not for the convenience of being able to marry you.. in that respect maybe she needs the space (away from your relationship) to look further into Islam and decide whether she is genuinely inclined that way..


even if she were hypothetically to convert to Islam - you would theoretically be able to marry her "Islamically" - but you should still take into consideration whether or not, and to what extent, your parents would be upset - and maybe try to convince them to be happy with it, respectfully - and if that didn't work, maybe consult someone appropriate for further guidance as to whether to pursuit it or not.


but if there's no future in it - maybe it's best to just end things - broken hearts feel like they'll never be fixed, at the time - but in time, most wounds heal.

[Kiya]

isn't there somefink called "zina of da heart" goes something along wat ASB said star said :eyesroll:

n i thought guyz can only marry people of da book n hindus rn't considered dat..... so i dont fink u can.....

i think u should back off.. ur messing up da poor galz life.... if she wants 2 converte, dan back off n let her find out abt islam on her own.. or u can guide her 2 local alima or other religious educated ladies (yes there r lot of em,, its not all mans).. n like everyone else said.. pplz change, plans change.. no point in promissing something 10 yrz ahead of time....

[HOODED_LYRICIST]

Thanks for all the advises.

Snoop:

Bro, it's good to know that I am not alone in this. I hope everything works out for you and your girl. Is she your 'fiance' cause you proposed to her? I just hope everything works out for the best at the end. I hope allah has mercy for the wrongs we are doing and have done. Also I know that I have to make a decision of which I think is right.

Samtel:

Samtel, thanks for your advise, but I can never turn my back on Islam. No matter what hardships I go through, I am going to have faith. Even if at times I do things that go against my beliefs, I know that Allah is merciful, and he is all forgiving. I truely believe that there is a god.

Jodaraye:

I am really greatful for your advise. You seem like a great person as well. I do love her and Islam and definitely my family as well. At times I feel like the world is crushing down on me but I know that for every problem there is a solution, so I am going to keep searching. Thanks again sis.(I am guessing that you are a female, sorry in advance if you aren't.)

Make it Legal:

True, I know that things won't change for the better if I don't do something about it. If I already committed zina, I hope Allah is merciful. Thanks main.

ASB:

I don't know what I'll do yet. But I guess I do have to decide but only after nothing works and after I've tried everything. Thanks for the advise.

Star:

Bro, i know that you know a lot about Islam and I really respect that. True, most wounds heal over time but some wounds are better not to heal. If this doesn't work out ( If Allah is willin, it will), i won't be interested in falling in love again. Thing is, how can one except the fact, that the person one loves, who is so amazing in so many ways, may go to hell. Thanks.

Kiya:

Thing is, the last person I ever want to hurt is her (other than my mom). Thanks for your advise.