MUST READ! Educated Bengali girls

[Aqaiyum]

Hi Everyone

i just thought ad post a question.

What happens when an educated girl gets married say to A levels, degree and so on. Once a bengali girl is married then s/he well kind of must abide by what the husband say. I have a cousin who presently has a degree but her husband will not let her work, as she wants to, definitely after getting a degree!!anyone would. I cant fully understand the case here??? okay the man will provide, but isnt this a waste of hard work, especially meeting deadlines.

Anyway eventually a family has to begin after marriage so who does what then???

just looking for opinion and thats all

take care

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Abs

[sylhet]

FUI
not all the people get educated so that they will get job eventually. Knowledge is power, knowledge is osmething which makes you a beter person. First thing that came from Allah to Prohet MOhammad was 'Read'.
the people who actually only get degree etc just fpr the sake of a job are missing the main purpose of eduacation.

[Locky]

hey, wasn't that topic here before.

[NoOneImportant]

was it, locky?

[Bangali_Nutter]

This topics really interesting... as the brother said not everyone educates themselves to work...

It will be interesting to find out what the woman think.... do they see themselves as the career women... or do they long to take the maternal-family-role?

Come on sis give us your views...

Take care all

[Suhanaa]

Well I can't tell you about myself as I havent a clue where I'm heading. But I know of people (females), who aquire degress just for the sake of it. They may boast of equality, argue over issues related to patriacrhy, but in their heart they really are quite traditional, they would like the husband to look afetr them ..putting it simply!!!!!! (I cannot generalise as I dont know what is there in the hearts of every women)..mind you I exclude myslef from the above paragraph..I am a quite different case



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Babz

[ameena_]

Brother Aqaiyum,
The situation you describe is quite common.
The main reason is they are not compatible!!!
I mean in terms of Education,Family up bringing, Genral charecter and in term of culture.
So with out being rude if I could give you an example..
If I marry an educated man from Bangladesh or London, his expectations of me will be quite different from say if I married a goru rakkhal from Bangladesh or London.

But lets not forget the main thing here,
It`s all down to the couple, meaning if they are both happy with a situation, then what the hell, good luck to them.

If she wants to work and he wants to stay at home to look after the kids, then fine...
That works for them..

bye, Ameena.