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Old 10th October 2000, 13:35
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salaam brothers and sisters


The Husband

The main duties of the man are :


The guardianship of the wife and children : this means he must ensure their security and protection, and must always act in such a way as to safeguard their interests.

The maintenance of his wife and children : He must spend from his own means to ensure that the basic material needs are provided for them, which includes bringing her all she needs to fulfill her duties as a wife. His wife is not obliged to give him any of her own money for this purpose, even if she is wealthy and he is poor. However, she may do so if she wishes.

Shelter for the wife and children : The husband must provide adequate housing for his family.


The main rights of the husband from his wife are :


Obedience and taking permission : The wife must obey her husband in all areas which are permitted from Islam, like to serve him or give him comfort. Also, the wife must take permission from her husband when she wants to leave the house, or when she wants to invite people into the house.

Divorce : It is right of the husband to divorce his wife is he is unhappy with the marriage. Also, if the husband dies, or divorces his wife, she must observe the 'Iddah (waiting period) before she can marry again. In the case of his death, this is four months and ten days, and in divorce, it is when three intervals between her menstruation have finished (as long as she is not pregnant).

Looking after his money and children : The wife must ensure that the children are properly cared for and educated with knowledge of Islam and that the husbands money is spent in a reasonable way.

Custody of the Children : It is the right of the husband that if his marriage ends, he takes custody of the children after they have reached seven years of age.

The Wife

The main responsibilities of the wife are :


1. Obedience and taking permission of her husband.

2. Looking after her husbands money.

3. Welfare of her husband : She must ensure that her husbands needs are taken care of.

4. Looking after the children.


The main rights of the wife from her husband are :


Companionship : It is the right of the wife that her husband gives her companionship and maintains good relations with her.

Spending and shelter : The husband must maintain her and shelter her, and give her anything she needs to fulfill her role as a wife. This includes providing things for her which she can use to adorn herself and make herself beautiful.

Kulh (Right of divorce) : The wife can ask for separation from her husband is she is unhappy with the marriage. There are three resons for which she can do this : a) He harms her directly, e.g. beating her, b) He harms her indirectly, e.g. not providing for her or her children, c) She hates him.

Custody of the children : It is the right of the wife if the marriage ends to have custody of the children as long as they are below the age of seven.


From these descriptions, it can be seen that the details of these rights and duties for both men and women complement each other perfectly. In Islam, there is no issue of struggle for rights, or disputes between the roles that each fulfills. These are all defined by Allah (swt), so obedience to them means that men and women are freed from oppression and dominance by members of the opposite sex.


Indeed, Islam obliges that husband and wife make the utmost efforts to keep a beautiful and cooperative relationship with each other.


Abu Hurairah (ra) reported that the Prophet (saw) said, "The most perfect of the believers in faith is he who is best of them in conduct, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." Tirmidhi


Abdullah ibn Amr reported that the Prophet (saw) said, "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." Muslim


jazak allah khair
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Old 10th October 2000, 13:49
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This is all very interesting!

This is the first time that I have read the duties of a male and female - I have read about it in an English version of the Qur'an - but did not understand it very well (Olde English!)

Although I may not agree with all of it - I guess I have to accept it!
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Old 10th October 2000, 13:58
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salaam sister nargis


jazak allah for your comment


these are main responsibilities of husband and wife, however does not mean that these are sole duties. Women are allowed to trade, work etc etc but these are also defined by shariah.

jazak allah khair
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Old 10th October 2000, 14:20
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...and the Cow jumped over the Moon
....and the Dish ran off with the Spoon.
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Old 10th October 2000, 14:20
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Ooooophs!!
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Old 11th October 2000, 13:22
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A-ALAIKUM,

thanx brother for that. i have read it before myself, but was quite a while back.
take care

mehreen
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