PARANOID AUNTIES

[SNOOP_KUTHA]

its like they been blazin the wrong stuff


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you know how some parents dont like there kids bein around opposite sex ppl, strangers you can understand why, but when its like your cousins or somethin, why dont they still want you to hang out with them?

i dont understand there mentality

one of my cousin sisters said its cause she's got gal mates, i got boy mates and then thats gna lead to ppl hookin up, like im gna hook my cousin up wiv 1 of my mates or sumtin

but i dont think its that, cause say your within a family household they still dont want you to sit down and talk and definetly not be alone with each other

i think i know what it is, but im not gonna say incase im just thinkin abit extra when there could be a more logical explanation to things

so i wanna hear your lots view on the matter, i dont want to know wether or not your parents allow you, i just want to know your views on this matter specifically...so allow the excerts from your autobiography

[aga_kha]

the only fing i can think of is they mite think u mite hook up wit ya cuzzin. even tho i doubt ne1 wud wanna be checking their cuzzin.

[Bang_Ali]

Well normally I'm the sort of guy that gets let into anyone's house to chill with their females , but that's because people tend to trust me (for some unknown reason).

But the reason your aunt doesn't like letting you get too close to your female cousins is becuase it's not totally unheard of for cousins to get down and dirty with eachother.

It might be a totally alien idea to us (and quite yucky if you ask me), but in their generations it wasn't too uncommon for cousins to marry each other. Look at the way it is in pakistani families, marrying cousins seems to be the normal thing to do.

Also in Islam it isn't forbidden to marry your cousin, therefore in your aunts eyes, your cousin and you may not be just brotherly-sisterly. You both may end up getting more close than you initially wanted. Afterall, there's a huge difference between your cousin and your own sister.

As far as you hooking one of your mates and your cousins together, it may sound silly. But have you considered that some of your so-called "mates" and your cousin may get it on behind your back? Being around you while one of your mates is with you will provide an opportunity for them to talk and interact. You could be providing an interface for something else without even realising it. It could be another eason why your aunt doesn't like you interacting.

I know it sounds daft in that your cousin probably gets the chance to interact with other guys anyway and your aunt is holding onto something small here, but it's how the older people think.

Right or wrong your aunt has views on things that you (and other people) will disagree with. But it's her right as a mother to have her views.

[SNOOP_KUTHA]

thats what i was thinkin


they think somethins gna happen between one of us lot, my mum dont mind me talkin to them coz i intentionally diss them when im talkin about them to her jus to reassure n not let het get paranoid it

but the only reason she dont WANT me to get to close to them is coz she knows there parents dont like it n she dont like ppl talkin about our family


i can understand there mentality i jus think its abit juvenile lol, coz i can honestly say its not my intention at all to pursue any type of relationship wiv dem, and the female one im most closest to me n her agree its a sick fing so therefore nuffin will eva happen altho the way we talk 2 each other it might seem like were up to sumfin

as far as i kno only one of my cousin sistaz has said she likes me, i jus avoid her now ..i dont need that kinda drama in my life ..thats out of the ones im in regular contact wiv

as for distant cousin ones, well my mama'r goror bhoin said she likes me to n i said she's fit..but nuffin happened coz i jus blanked her wen she kept tellin my sista to get me to come in da room ...n now she's got some nex man so its all good

[Bang_Ali]

Originally posted by SNOOP_KUTHA


as far as i kno only one of my cousin sistaz has said she likes me, i jus avoid her now

as for distant cousin ones, well my mama'r goror bhoin said she likes me to n i said she's fit

You've really answered your own question here. If you felt differently about either of those two or acted differently then you know what could have come along next.

Even though its your mama's (maternal uncle) daughter, it's still a first cousin and so is equally uuurgh if you ask me, but for some reason it seems more accptable to guys who wouldn't normally think of their sasa'r daughter like that.

So it sounds daft in that it's more likely that females are going to be getting naughty with other guys apart from you.

The reason that they will appear to be acting tight with you is because it makes them feel better. They can tell themself that they are trying to keep their females on the straight and narrow, even if it means that an innocent (or not so innocent) like yourself gets abused.

Strange how peoples' minds works. If only they saw the truth then they'd leave the good guys alone and get off our backs and concentrate on the real bad apples.

[Ms-Bored]

I dont really have REAL cousins but a lot of distant cousins so to speak and my Ma is fine about that... she dont mind if i hang out with them, go to shops with them (day time), sit with them....

it would only bother her if someone else chats sh1t about who they've seem me with me...

u see me Ma is fine, cos there not my type!!

and most of the guys that i see out and about are all married with kids... so therefore no chance of me hooking up!! lol

to be honest me Ma is quite laid back... its other ppl that she bloody listens to that does my head in cos i dont go out only to manc and thats stright to my sisters... with my hair open hahahahahah!!!

and i go to work and stright home again!!! not much of a social life!! but its ok for me!!

Ms. Bored
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ps i used to hang out with my nephew who was 3/4 yrs older than me (not real neph his ma was related to my dad's sisters family - long distance)...

...anyway his name is Anwar... i used to hang out with him, confind in him, and me ma was ok with that, he used to come to our house every other day and it was nice... i think i secretly fancied him... anyway he got married and thats was the end of that... also he became a bit extreamist with his islamic values... i think now a days hes not that extramist!! i've not seen him for years. and i dont trust him!! cos i know he thinks that im a slapper!!! but when we were younger we used to go to the park, go to manchester, me ma was fine with that!! but now adays if were that free i dont think me would be happy at all!!

[Bang_Ali]

Originally posted by Ms-Bored

and most of the guys that i see out and about are all married with kids... so therefore no chance of me hooking up!! lol

ps i used to hang out with my nephew who was 3/4 yrs older than me (not real neph his ma was related to my dad's sisters family - long distance)...

...anyway his name is Anwar... i used to hang out with him, confind in him, and me ma was ok with that, he used to come to our house every other day and it was nice... i think i secretly fancied him... anyway he got married and thats was the end of that... also he became a bit extreamist with his islamic values... i think now a days hes not that extramist!! i've not seen him for years. and i dont trust him!! cos i know he thinks that im a slapper!!! but when we were younger we used to go to the park, go to manchester, me ma was fine with that!! but now adays if were that free i dont think me would be happy at all!!

Uuuurggghhhh. How can you secretly fancy someone who is a nephew type character? Thats more disgusting than fancying your cousin.

And don't be so sure about not hooking up with married men, there are some sad slappers out there who only go for married men. They want what they shouldn't. They want what they can't have. They get some kind of sick enjoyment out of nicking another woman's man. And then there are some sad men who give in to temptation.

Anyway how can you not trust him just because he might think you are a slapper? The worst you can charge him with is having some morals, and that isn't such a bad thing.

How can you not trust someone because they have a stricter outlook when it comes to sexuality. But then again he might not trust you as he may think your a loose woman or something.

He as a moralist could a very trustworthy person. And if you were a slapper, you too could be a very trustworthy person (apart from to your husband that is ).

Just another way of looking at it.

Makes you think doesn't it?