Im getting married

[anisa22]

congratulations! everything always works out for the best in the end.... hope you are really happy with your new hubby and kids!

one thing though... make sure you dont turn the kids against their mother because when step mums do things like that, its likely to come back and bite you on the bum a few years down the road..... most kids dont like being told or indirectly made to feel that their mother is worthless and would resent anyone who tries to make them feel this way. if their mother was in control of herself, she probably wouldnt be doing such things.... you gotta remember that addiction to drugs make people act in crazy ways.

[Bang_Ali]

Originally posted by anisa22
congratulations! everything always works out for the best in the end.... hope you are really happy with your new hubby and kids!

one thing though... make sure you dont turn the kids against their mother because when step mums do things like that, its likely to come back and bite you on the bum a few years down the road..... most kids dont like being told or indirectly made to feel that their mother is worthless and would resent anyone who tries to make them feel this way. if their mother was in control of herself, she probably wouldnt be doing such things.... you gotta remember that addiction to drugs make people act in crazy ways.

Addiction is a terrible thing, but if you read what Sima said, the kuthi left her kids to be with a shada kutha which got her into this mess.

If she was a decent person then she wouldve never left her family. I'm thinking to myself that Sima's new hubby-to-be is a great guy (well she makes him sound like it) and so the problem lies with the kuthi alone, or Sima has lowered her standards below acceptable.

What kind of woman would leave her "great" husband and kids to be with another man that would lead her down that path? What kind of woman would bring disgrace onto her own parents? Don't say because she loved this shads kutha, isnt the love of a mother for her children the greatest?

Sima doesnt have to turn the kids against their "mother", she did that herself the day she left them to be with that *******.

As far as I'd be concerned (and so should you Sima), YOU are their mother. These will be like your own kids, you will be the one that wakes them up in the morning, bathes them, dresses them, feeds them, takes them to school, puts them to bed. You will be the one that hugs them and nurses them when they are ill.

She will be the one that loses out in all this and in the end will be the true loser. Her loss is your gain (in more ways than one )

What concerns me though is that you are willing to pay for the legal status. You know blatantly what the money will be used for. Like I said you will be their mother in all ways apart from the legal status. Personally I'd advise you to not give her the money, I think it'll be disrespectful to the children. Almost like you bought them. When they grow up, they will know the truth- that their slapper of a mother couldnt keep her legs shut and abandoned them. The'll also know that you were the one that came to them when they needed a mother.

Think about this carefully before parting from your cash.


Like I always say Sima, even though you've done silly things, you seem to have repented for your wrongs and are trying to put things right. Its weird how some other cow had to screw things up so you could put something right. This is your second chance that you've been waiting for so dont muck it up (your very lucky to have had this).