virginity

[Mahbuba]

who is a virgin?

if this is too personal, forget about it, don't answer.

i know i'm not a virgin because i was forced to have sex instead of wanting it. =0(

[rini_h]

what do you mean when you said forced?

[Bang_Ali]

Originally posted by Mahbuba
who is a virgin?

if this is too personal, forget about it, don't answer.

i know i'm not a virgin because i was forced to have sex instead of wanting it. =0(

So were you raped then ??

Who did this and why didnt you report this to the relevant authorities ?? He needs to be punished.

Have you told your family ?? (or was this because you put yourself in a vulnerable situation ??). Dont get me wrong, I'm not saying that all asked for it or anything. But still you should report this.

[SNOOP_KUTHA]

you were forced to? thats fuked up, i got a mate who had same fing done 2 her, and some of my mates done it to anotha gal bastards

[Sweetiepie83]

Originally posted by Mahbuba
who is a virgin?

if this is too personal, forget about it, don't answer.

i know i'm not a virgin because i was forced to have sex instead of wanting it. =0(

hey Mahbuba, was this the thing that you were talking about on the adultery thread...."worse than cheating" but you asked Allah to forgive them? If it's too personal you don't have to answer. Still, if you were raped...you should report it, you deserve justice. And if you don't tell anyone, there's a good chance he'll do it to someone else.

[Mahbuba]

I just wanted to tell you b.commers this because I don't know, I know I will never get to see you, and if I do tell you, you will tell me your honest opinion.

Originally posted by rini_h
what do you mean when you said forced?

At the age of 6, 7, and 8, I don't know what else I would call it without knowing what's going inside of me, as in the 4 different guys' penis (sorry for the terminology).

Bang_Ali, I wouldn't consider it rape, it's abusement which a little girl didn't know what it was. I will still call it sexual abuse, I don't think I would call it a rape. Rape is when you are forced to do something that you don't want to do. I was forced to do it, but I didn't know what 'he' was doing, that's all.
I don't think I could had done anything at that age, because then all the parents will gather around and call me crazy. These 4 boys knew that I was a shy girl and I wouldn't open my mouth to anything.
Around the year 1987 and 88, I think everyone in my family would have kept everything on a hush hush point.

I told my counselor this at the age of 9 and again at the age of 12 in my junior high school, but they weren't going to help, because my mom was like "tauba tauba, sis sis, itha kitha mathos, thui amar furi nai"...something of that sort.

I went to Bangladesh and saw 2 of my cousins who did that to me when I was young, and I felt like smacking them, but I didn't say anything because, "why say now, when it happened long ago, and I don't have proof of it, who will believe me?"

Just remember Bang_Ali, the things that happened to me, happens to thousands of little girls in Bangladesh, without any hesitation.

SnoOp, how can you have "mates" who had done it to other girls? You shouldn't consider them your mates then. Only if you want to. Not my problem.

Sweetiepie83, it's already too late. I was 6,7, and 8 then, and now I am 23 years old. If I open my mouth now, nothing will happen. Everyone will stare at me, and no one will believe me.

And, "yes" I was talking about that in the "adultry" section. I did ask Allah to forgive them, because I know Allah will forgive me becuase it wasn't my fault.

Anyway, guys and girls, if someone physically abused or sexually abused one of children, what actions will you take?

The reason my mom and i didn't take any actions because of SOCIETY. Society is within all of us. And, I hate that sh1t. If I have a child and if she or he was abused, I would get him arrested and let the law see what should be done with him and ask Allah for mercy.

=0/

[Sweetiepie83]

If someone hurt my little girl or my little boy, I'm not sure what I would do. All I know is that I'm very protective of my little sister, and I hate it when ppl take advantage of or hurt children, especially in a sexual way, as children are absolutely innocent, defenseless and will trust almost anyone. Half the time, they, like you, don't even know what's being done to them and all they feel is shame and like it was somehow their fault. So, I honestly wouldn't be surprised if my reaction was to get back at the person, in whatever way possible; like I've already said on the adultery thread, I don't forgive easily. I also don't have a lot of faith in the legal system. So really, I have no idea what I might be capable of under the circumstances.