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[Marawak_3]

Originally posted by Khilari


er... whats the matter with you man?

Sexual Abuse in children occurs. It is not detected because a lot of the time the child being abused thinks it is a "secret" or a "game" being played with the man as s/he has no idea about sex.

A game that involves ridiculous amounts of pain and bleeding???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

It is often not detected because at that age, children often have more privacy eg going to the loo, and so "injuries" or even bleeding are not obvious.

But still, I can't see a little girl bleeding from there and hurting, and being too shy to speak up....she would be scared out of her mind......6 year olds can't handle that

Hymen bleeding can be a lot or hardly anything.

It's not really for us to judge whether Mahbuba's story true or not.

I didn't say it wasn't true did I???? In fact I said it was a terrible thing; I was only questioning the SOLE fact that nobody would believe her, when the evidence was obviously and undoubtedly there

But picture it this way:
-if it is fake then believing her does no-one any harm
-if it is true, then making comments such as the ones you have made are really insensitive and nasty.

I don't believe so.....as I said, I offered my condolence....I simply said(again) that I think people would have believed her coz of the evidence. Hows that nasty??? This is a discussion board, if its not open to opinion whats the point?

Also, ever heard of giving a brother/sister the benefit of the doubt?

No comment

You seem less like the Marawak of before...

Thats because I'm not him, or haven't you guys realised that yet?????.......check out the open board mate and read about it....lol

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[SNOOP_KUTHA]

bang ali....


the thing that happened to my mate, happened when she was 14-15 years old, i met her when i was 17 and she was 18...i offered to sort the guy out for her but she said she dont kno where he is coz she sent her otha friends round the house it happened in and his gone...and she dont kno where he is now...and even if she did she jus wants to forget it now hence the reason alot of people dont know about it, she's moved on with her life

as for my mates who did it, 5 of them i knew personally, the 6th one mark i had problems with him from day one...this is what happened

the girl said she will sleep with the 5 i knew, so you can imagine the kinda hoe she was,so first time round it was consensual sex, then mark got abit horny and wanted to shag her to, but she said no, so the other 5 held her down while mark done his thing, then 3 of them left, and then the other 3 done it again...only then did it become a rape situation...they were my mates from when i was little, so i didnt agree with what they done, and that was the end of that, its not like i chill with them, as for mark, like i said i had problems with him from day one, we had a fight when he got involved in my fight with this other boy...mark isnt my mate, never was, neva will be

[Ms-Bored]

hi Mahbuba, unfortuately u dont know me, and despite our nasty child abuse sounds the same, i live in the Norhtewest of England and im not from the Sylhet district.

The only reason i can think of why he targeted me, he did try it on with my 2 elder sisters but they screamed and he left them alone the fcker!!

i was dead shy and very clingly my mum and dad used to argue all the time and i sometimes think that i was negelcted... but to be honest im just using my parents arguing as an scapegoat and it was meant to happen to me so that i can learn!

i mean things happen for a reason and everything is a test! i suppose Allah Talah meant no harm and one day i will ask Allah Talah!

anyway... now a days i have learnted that sh1t happens and this experience made me stronger and a bit messed up in the head but hey all i need is a man who can understand and guide in the right path!

If i see him again, i honestly dont know what to do, but if i ever marry ...oh i dont know... a police guy, then he can knock him out hahahahah!!!!

PS i'm Divorced by the way! it was arranged!

[Mahbuba]

[quote]Originally posted by KaMrAn1

[i]I dont need 2 seee a psychologist i tink u do coz u da 1 got 8787uii7676xcvsadsa
[Edited by KaMrAn1 on 9th December 2003 at 07:56]

Can you elaborate on that because it seems I don't understand what you had meant by the last word of your sentence.

Seeing a psychologist is not a bad thing. I would love to see a psychologist and resolve my problems and I had seen one. It was a moment you can talk to someone who can give a clear advice on many topics. And, that's why I recommended you see a psychologist.

[Mahbuba]

Originally posted by Marawak_3

[Mahbuba]

Originally posted by Ms-Bored
i was dead shy and very clingly
I USED TO NOT TALK AT ALL EXCEPT WHEN SOMEONE USED TO QUESTION ME,THEN I USED TO OPEN MY MOUTH OR ELSE MY MOUTH WAS SHUT TIGHT.

i sometimes think that i was negelcted...
I THOUGHT THAT TOO

anyway... now a days i have learnted that sh1t happens and this experience made me stronger and a bit messed up in the head but hey all i need is a man who can understand and guide in the right path!
TRUE THAT

If i see him again, i honestly dont know what to do, but if i ever marry ...oh i dont know... a police guy, then he can knock him out hahahahah!!!!
LOL MAKE SURE SOMEHOW YOU NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN, SO YOU WON'T LET YOUR HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND'S HANDS ON HIM. BECAUSE DON'T YOU WANT YOUR BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND WHO YOU WOULD LOVE IN THE FUTURE TO GO TO HEAVEN?

PS i'm Divorced by the way! it was arranged!
LOL YOU GO GIRL! (IF YOU DIVORCED HIM THAT IS) IF HE DIVORCED YOU WELL THAT'S ANOTHER THREAD!

BUT DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO DIVORCED THEIR WIFE BECAUSE SHE WASN'T A VIRGIN? JUST ASKING.

[Sweetiepie83]

Originally posted by Mahbuba

BUT DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO DIVORCED THEIR WIFE BECAUSE SHE WASN'T A VIRGIN? JUST ASKING.

Well, if you were honest and had an open discussion about expectations regarding marriage with your would-be partner (like all couples should) there would be no question of divorce 'cuz he'd know that you were not a virgin to begin with. And in the case of anyone who was sexually abused and that was the reason why some *sshole refused to marry them, well no one needs to get married to a guy/gal that is so narrowminded and cruel anyways.