BENGALI GIRLS WITH BLACK MEN

[Nur]

Salaam,
Another very important point is that muslim boys go out with non-muslim girls and get up to all kinds of mischief and this should not be ignored - If muslim parents give their son total freedom and allows him to behave in an unislamic way then the daughter is bound to get a bit angry and some will rebel! Parents have to bring both sons and duaghters up in an islamic way!

[Wais_Islam]

Do we agree that parents aren't being made aware of these social changes? What can we do to help educate them? Could we start off by changing the language in Friday khutbaas or the messages addressed prior to the khutbaa? Or should we just keep on talking about educating the parents and not have any sort of professional body?

[Nur]

Originally posted by Wais Islam:
Do we agree that parents aren't being made aware of these social changes? What can we do to help educate them? Could we start off by changing the language in Friday khutbaas or the messages addressed prior to the khutbaa? Or should we just keep on talking about educating the parents and not have any sort of professional body?

Salaam,
There are many things that can be done. Many parents are very uneducated themselves and go purely by culture which is partly influenced by hindus! One of the best things to do is to meet up regularly and have study circles and other recreational activities! Often ppl just need the right ppl to mix with. There is a hadith as follows:

If you enter a perfume shop then you will come out smelling of perfume even if you don't touch it, and if you go to a barn you will come out smelling of horse doing even if you don't touch it. (words to this effect!)

In other words the ppl you hang around with will influence you! Often all it takes is one good friend to help a person stay on the right track! I have seen this for myself and know that it isn't just a theory!

Its not difficult to organise - just needs a few committed and decent ppl!

[Suhanaa]

[quote] Originally posted by LONDONNI:
Suhana u said u dont wanna say anything to my topic, why did u make this comment then.

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I MADE THAT COMMENT BECAUSE YOU HAD DTHET NERVE TO MENTION MY NAME HERE AND DAT TOO WITH AN ACCUSATION

I WILL TELL YA WHY I DIDNT WANNA REPLY TO YOUR POSTS....

FRANKLY BRO..I DO NOT THINK YOUR A NICE PERSON..(INITIALLY I THOUGHT THE OPPOSITE)...SO ALL YOUR TRTYIN TO DO IS GET INTO NUR+COS GOOD BOOK...LOOK BELOW...dumbo..what do u fink ur doin accusing me of having an ugly black....

[quote]I think u have ugly black boyfriend, this is why u disagree with us.
[quote]

and ur not racist..who u trying to convince



Why are u against this topic, so u saying its alright bengalis to go out with non-muslim. How cum i am racist, i am only saying muslims should stick muslims not with non-muslims, u dont agree, i think u need help. I think u have ugly black boyfriend, this is why u disagree with us. Zahra sis, I didnt say bengali girls shouldnt get married or go out if black men is muslim, i said they shouldnt go out with non-muslim, i said about black men coz i see more bengali girls with black than white. If u read ma first post careful, u will see what i meant.

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SO ID SAT LONDONI UR DA ONE WHO IS IN NEED OF GREATTT HELP.NOT MOI....UR A BIT STUPID IN DA HEAD...I MEAN WHAT KINDA SICK PERSON WUD USE MY NAME..TO GET A GALS PIC

AND dont u dare make accusations...u RAcist pig...u dotn know me...and i dotn know ya..but i stillhave pretty good idea of what kinda saddo u r
in the future if u cant talk nicely..den dont bother mentioning my name in ur posts



and oh yea..1 last thing..GET A LIFE




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.............KeWl thy name iS 'ANNA'................

[Nur]

[quote]Originally posted by Suhanaa:
[quote] Originally posted by LONDONNI:
Suhana u said u dont wanna say anything to my topic, why did u make this comment then.

[quote]

I MADE THAT COMMENT BECAUSE YOU HAD DTHET NERVE TO MENTION MY NAME HERE AND DAT TOO WITH AN ACCUSATION

I WILL TELL YA WHY I DIDNT WANNA REPLY TO YOUR POSTS....

FRANKLY BRO..I DO NOT THINK YOUR A NICE PERSON..(INITIALLY I THOUGHT THE OPPOSITE)...SO ALL YOUR TRTYIN TO DO IS GET INTO NUR+COS GOOD BOOK...LOOK BELOW...dumbo..what do u fink ur doin accusing me of having an ugly black....

[quote]I think u have ugly black boyfriend, this is why u disagree with us.

and ur not racist..who u trying to convince



Why are u against this topic, so u saying its alright bengalis to go out with non-muslim. How cum i am racist, i am only saying muslims should stick muslims not with non-muslims, u dont agree, i think u need help. I think u have ugly black boyfriend, this is why u disagree with us. Zahra sis, I didnt say bengali girls shouldnt get married or go out if black men is muslim, i said they shouldnt go out with non-muslim, i said about black men coz i see more bengali girls with black than white. If u read ma first post careful, u will see what i meant.

Salaam,
Suhanaa, can you come to bdchat please.

[LONDONNI]

Originally posted by Versace-boy:
Salam all... i havent read all of this tpic, but I felt Zarahs comments to be quite valid.

Firstly, there should be nothing wrong with a Bengali girl being with a Black Man, racism is against the principles of Islam-they way we should lead our lives. If a Bengali girl is with a Black man in marriage whats wrong with it?

I think this topic is referring to Bengali girls having black men as boyfriends, which should be forbidded, just as having a boyfriend of any race.

Perhaps why we should see why Bengali girls
go for black men? I am not saying this is the reason why all do, but more of a suspicion. Sadly, many Bengalis(parents) have somewhat racist views, or at least consider blacks to be the lowest class out of all races, they often see them as criminals.
The Bengali girl going out with black guy, and showing off about it is a way of rebellion.

I think the best way of doing somethin about it, is giving a child good morals and upbringing where they are taught how import it is to lead the life of a good Muslims, and guide the person in this way up to adulthood possible even a little beyond that. I think this has already been mentioned.


If there is a Bengali girl with a black man in marriage, then there should be nothing wrong with that as, as muslims we should not be racist.
However,in my opinion, the only near-valid objection to such a marriage may be seen like this: In Islam, marriage is just not between two people but more a joining of to families. A traditional Bengali family may not be able to get on with a black family (due to their racist views). Obeying your parents, and not upsetting/disobeying them is something very important. In situations like this, perhaps it would be better for a bengali girl not to marry a black man, but understand why this has happened, and at the same time the girl could learn from her forefathers mistakes, and discourage any racist views in the family she has; s that our culture and community can become better Muslims by aceepting and respecting people of all races.

V-boy what are u trying to say, u saying if black man is non-muslim, he can marry bengali girl, thats alright. What i am trying to say, is that bengali girls shouldnt marry non-muslim. Anyway, if black man is muslim, i think still wouldnt be good idea. This is because we have different culture and different language. Both black man and bengali girl families wouldnt get on.

[LONDONNI]

Originally posted by Wais Islam:
Do we agree that parents aren't being made aware of these social changes? What can we do to help educate them? Could we start off by changing the language in Friday khutbaas or the messages addressed prior to the khutbaa? Or should we just keep on talking about educating the parents and not have any sort of professional body?

Good points made by wais islam, i think we should open up an organisation, where families can get free islamic and social information and advise. I think some parents unaware what they children goes upto, they think they are their children, they wouldnt do bad things and they only think only white and black do all bad things.