lock up ur rents?

[burns]

u must have all heard the thing about mps looking into creating a law to outlaw forced mariages yeh,

aside form the obvious problems of obtaining proof of a forced mariage and also the problem of young girls not having the confidence to go to the police, does anyone have a problem with introducing such a law?

i get the feeling that a lot of us do have a prob with such a law simply cos we see it as an attack on our culture.

[angeleyes]

Surely any kind of culture that forces people to do things that they don't want to, should be improved and changed.

It is not only girls, but also guys who are forced and emotionally blackmailed to marry people they don't want to. But yeah, there are a lot of cases with girls being forced.

Dialogue betweem children and parents is the way forward. Respect for each others view and compromise. Don't think a law will make that much of a difference.
There are many ways of bending the law orfinding loops and wiggle your way around it.

[burns]

yup, like you sed, i dont think the law would work. how is it gona legislate against emotional black mail?

can one envisage a boy going to the police and filing a complaint - "my mom says she will kill herslef if i dont marry my taloi-goror-boin bubbly"

but perhaps emotional blackmail isnt the worst thing? if it prevents your daughter from marrying the ni$$er from next door?

its the surprise weddings that need to be stopped. you ocasionaly hear of pakistani girls going back home and being ambushed into marrying their big nosed, oily mustache cousin . That ish has gotta be stopped.

[angeleyes]

Surprise wedding, as you call them, and the emotional blackmail weddings are very similar.

Both isolate the individial, separate them from the people who should be caring for them and their personal well-being and interests.

A girl who is taken 'back home' on the pretext of holiday and is married off to a cousin she saw once when she was 10, and the boy whose mother threatens to kill herself, are both vulnerable and emotionally opprresed by their parents/families. I think it is hard for people in either senario (and all the others) because they cannot reach out to their friends and extended family and society.

A greater awareness of teh childrens' needs, by the parents, and vice versa will no doubt increase peoples' understand of these issues.

I think the younger generation has to find out why some parents/families will force their chidlren to ONLY marry the partner they choose. And the parents/families have to understand what ther comes a time when you have to let go of your children and not be so possessive.

[burns]

well i hope by the time our kids grow up we will have figured it out.

but i would still be hessitant at the prospect of my niece marrying a white butcher whos idea of fun is to eat curry and get slaughterd every friday night. you're sure i cant use some emotional blackmail to remedy this?

also im wondering if all the emotional blackmail weddings lead to bad marraiges and unhappy couples?

how long does the feeling of betrayel that the kids feel towards their parents last?

[SNOOP_KUTHA]

the betrayal a parent feels goes deeper

[burns]

deosnt it piss you off that our parents seem to be so week in this respect?