Moving to bd for the sake of love?

[Fallen_Angel]

Hi everyone..this is my first post. I am in a very tricky situation. I've been together with a bangladeshi guy for 6 years ( long distance relationship ). We are soon getting married. I'm bangladeshi too but born and brought up outside bd ( europe ). Now he's always had plans to one day move back to bd, but I never thought he still was considering that.
He says that he wants to move to bd because one day his parents will be old and its his responsiblity to take care of them. They will never want to go outside bd so he'll be taking care of them in bd. He wanna go in 10 yrs he says...

I am bangladeshi, but only been to bd for vacations...a life in bd for me, is so unknown and lonely. I don't want to loose him...but I don't wanna move to bd either...
What do I do..?

Please...some advice needed.

[Gloom]

It's your own decision, you know...
Would you really trust an advice from some complete stranger from the internet message board?
Would you move just because the one told you to move, or stay, because the one told you to stay? I hope not.
This issue is way too serious.

[khanni]

Originally Posted by Fallen_Angel

Hi everyone..this is my first post. I am in a very tricky situation. I've been together with a bangladeshi guy for 6 years ( long distance relationship ). We are soon getting married. I'm bangladeshi too but born and brought up outside bd ( europe ). Now he's always had plans to one day move back to bd, but I never thought he still was considering that.
He says that he wants to move to bd because one day his parents will be old and its his responsiblity to take care of them. They will never want to go outside bd so he'll be taking care of them in bd. He wanna go in 10 yrs he says...

I am bangladeshi, but only been to bd for vacations...a life in bd for me, is so unknown and lonely. I don't want to loose him...but I don't wanna move to bd either...
What do I do..?

Please...some advice needed.

Sometimes having to give a little to gain a lot is important. It seems that way to me. Are you sure that you love him or is it that you do not know what to do without him? It is a tough choice however if you truely love him then respect the goodness in him and help him to care for his parents. We are daughters and are not ment to be around our parents forever. In every girls life there is a time to leave the home and settle with the husband, where ever that may be. He cares for his parents and if you do not show that same concern then he will find another girl who will. This may sound cruel, however it is reality and reality is harsh, only dreams come true. Make a sacrifice for him and I believe that you will be happy. Here is my email address and email me if you would like to talk more other than on a board. I am to returning to Bangladesh after 13 years in America and I can not wait. I am to born is USA my father from Pakistan and mother from America, however my husband is Bengali and that make Bangladesh my Country...I would follow my husband to the end of the earth if needed. You need to feel the same way for your guy to.

[golpo.net]

Originally Posted by khanni

I am to born is USA my father from Pakistan and mother from America, however my husband is Bengali and that make Bangladesh my Country...I would follow my husband to the end of the earth if needed. You need to feel the same way for your guy to.

/me bows to khanni

My honor & respect to u..not for that ur a woman..but for ur thought....ur confidence..ur trust....Im sure ur getting the same from ur husband

Wish u best of luck..sister.