InterRacial Marriage or Dating

[urban_diva]

First of all, Please keep an Open mind when responding to this.

Most of us probably here is probably Muslim or come from a strict family. But we all living in the 21st century where Dating is preferred by most young people. And the media and the society we living in, either openly having relationship with opposite sex or in some cultures behind closed doors but we all know its happening. Even in bangladesh, as far as I know, they are all celebrating valenstine's day. And it is for LOVER'S!! (incase some of you didnt know)

But My topic is, Wherever you live, if you like/love someone who is not the same color, creed, religion, ethnicity, etc.

1. Do you believe its wrong to proceed with the relationship
2. IF you marry that person, do you the marriage will last?
3. Do you tell your parents and if they dont agree, do you go ahead and keep relationship with that person?
4. Or you against or pro towards dating in our culture?
5. Lasttly, Can love conqour all?
Please fell free tell us about your experience, or gossip, or just plain opinion on this topic.

THANX
UrBan DiVa RePresenTin' TdoT

[silovesjakeya]

Well, I've been in a situation that can answer most of your questions. I was going out with a Bengali girl for 2 years and we were really happy. However, since I'm white and she's Bengali, it wasn't possible for me to meet her parents and stuff. But we made do, she was adored by my family and I met her sister and nieces etc. However, this summer, she had to go to Bangladesh to get married to some guy she hardly knows. So I'm all alone now. So, no, unless we get rid of religious and cultural prejudices, love can't conquer all, and this world is going to fail. Her family still don't know about me (although I'm sure they do really), and my girl is married and living in Sylhet for 6 months before returning home here to England. I still have great respect for Bengali people, but this cultural situation needs to be sorted. Bengalis come to England, use modern facilities, get benefits, create businesses, their kids go to British schools and mix with white kids, but then they aren't allowed to fall in love when they get a bit older. It's a disgrace, and it's destroyed part of my life. The great memories live on though.

[urban_diva]

Sorry to hear what happend to you, but why didnt you go to her parents? I dont know how old you are but if you were old enough and wanted a future with her I think I you should have met her parents even though she said no and she is scared. Parents eventually forgive. But its too late now. This is happening more than we realize in our community. People think if we close our eyes to it, no one else will notice. Parents need to be more understanding and talk to their kids, not just forbid to do someting, cuz all it does it make the kids rebel.

well thats all now, gotta go

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[SYLETHY_PRIYA]

i agree with you miss diva.its just that,i suppose bengali parents are so stubborn that whatever they say they just got to do it no matter what happens and how it happens.
i mean like,although we know that our parents think the world of us,at the same time they can have different attitude towards certain situations and certain things.
For instance when the matter comes to dealing with love marriges,they freak out so much that they just think the whole idea of falling in love was a plan.
especially when the topic is about marrying different race!before they want to know or hear anything they just say "NO" altogether.

[BALA_FUA]

Originally posted by urban_diva
First of all, Please keep an Open mind when responding to this.

Most of us probably here is probably Muslim or come from a strict family. But we all living in the 21st century where Dating is preferred by most young people. And the media and the society we living in, either openly having relationship with opposite sex or in some cultures behind closed doors but we all know its happening. Even in bangladesh, as far as I know, they are all celebrating valenstine's day. And it is for LOVER'S!! (incase some of you didnt know)

But My topic is, Wherever you live, if you like/love someone who is not the same color, creed, religion, ethnicity, etc.

1. Do you believe its wrong to proceed with the relationship
2. IF you marry that person, do you the marriage will last?
3. Do you tell your parents and if they dont agree, do you go ahead and keep relationship with that person?
4. Or you against or pro towards dating in our culture?
5. Lasttly, Can love conqour all?
Please fell free tell us about your experience, or gossip, or just plain opinion on this topic.

THANX
UrBan DiVa RePresenTin' TdoT

Its not wrong to proceed in a relationship everyone should have the choice of their marriage partner. Some people are too traditional, they must follow the old ways even in this modern society and century.

There should be more freedom in the way 2 ppl choose their marriage partners. The traditional freaking by parents should be dumped

However, if arranged marriages was not available there would be alot of guys and gals who would go unmarried.

But...if you let it out too loose...bengali gals get big-headed if you give them the liberty of freedom. Then everything would become such a way eventually that it doesnt last...just with British gals

If i told my parents...of course they would more than freak out...but i would go ahead with it anyway...they could have an interest/advice but at the end of the its my choice & decision who i want to live with the rest of my life.

[Rahul46]

You remind my past!!!!!

Same thing did not happen to me according to your story, silovesjakeya. I used to love a girl. Actually, still I do. I submitted my love story to "www.mohabbat.com". Anyway, my parents are very much different than others. I have a good friendship with my parents. They know everything about my angel.

I have talked to that girl many times, but did not go out with her, because I was scared of her parents. Her parents are not same as my parents. The interest thing is I said first to her that I am in love with a fairy girl like you. I haven't got any reply from her, but she used to think me as a diffrent boy. If other boys disturbs her, she used to tell to her parents, but she doesn't mind when I do the something. Is this called love???? I miss her very much. So, may be the identical thing would not happen in my life as happened to you, Mrrr. Silovesjakeya. If does you will see my name at first in the box.