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Originally posted by Versace-boy:
Salam all... i havent read all of this tpic, but I felt Zarahs comments to be quite valid.

Firstly, there should be nothing wrong with a Bengali girl being with a Black Man, racism is against the principles of Islam-they way we should lead our lives. If a Bengali girl is with a Black man in marriage whats wrong with it?

I think this topic is referring to Bengali girls having black men as boyfriends, which should be forbidded, just as having a boyfriend of any race.

Perhaps why we should see why Bengali girls
go for black men? I am not saying this is the reason why all do, but more of a suspicion. Sadly, many Bengalis(parents) have somewhat racist views, or at least consider blacks to be the lowest class out of all races, they often see them as criminals.
The Bengali girl going out with black guy, and showing off about it is a way of rebellion.

I think the best way of doing somethin about it, is giving a child good morals and upbringing where they are taught how import it is to lead the life of a good Muslims, and guide the person in this way up to adulthood possible even a little beyond that. I think this has already been mentioned.


If there is a Bengali girl with a black man in marriage, then there should be nothing wrong with that as, as muslims we should not be racist.
However,in my opinion, the only near-valid objection to such a marriage may be seen like this: In Islam, marriage is just not between two people but more a joining of to families. A traditional Bengali family may not be able to get on with a black family (due to their racist views). Obeying your parents, and not upsetting/disobeying them is something very important. In situations like this, perhaps it would be better for a bengali girl not to marry a black man, but understand why this has happened, and at the same time the girl could learn from her forefathers mistakes, and discourage any racist views in the family she has; s that our culture and community can become better Muslims by aceepting and respecting people of all races.

Salaam,
I agree with you bro, but you know it can be a bit more complicated. You see I have met many non-muslims who are interested in asian girls generally, and they will go to any lenghts to get them - even convert to Islam, while not actually believing in Islam. And there are stories of this happening and then the guys going off after a while with another girl! If someone truly believes in Islam he will become muslim first and then he will look for a wife - if he finds a muslim girl and then wants to suddenly become muslim then youshould be careful! There is a hadith which says, that to trust ppl at a time when the world is corrupt is foolish and can lead one to the fire! Si as Londonni rightly pointed out it is a problem and one that should be addressed! The only real solution boils down to bringing children up in an islamic way from an early age - trying to preach to them in the late teenage years can be impossible sometimes!

More later, inshaAllah!